Oak Park Area Lesbian and Gay Association
Since its inception in 1989, OPALGA has become one of the largest community based, multipurpose lesbian and gay membership organizations in Illinois.
Message from the Co-Chairs
Much has been written about the power of numbers. Interesting, then, how many different numbers seem to be involved with OPALGA this month:
1—As in “EACH ONE…REACH ONE.” This is a theme that our Board has adopted this year. Its central premise is profound yet simple—each of us as Board members should—no, must—make a constant effort to bring a new person to each event or program we attend. Whether it is the Gala, a potluck, a membership meeting, or whatever, the most efficient and effective way to help us grow and strengthen our organization is through membership efforts all year long. We will be asking you many times this year to join us in this effort.
4—As in “4 Minutes,” Madonna’s latest smash hit featuring Justin Timberlake, Timbaland, and one fierce pair of knee-high boots.
14—As in Saturday, June 14, when OPALGA members and guests go “The Full Monty.” We have bought out the entire house that evening at the Village Players Theatre to see a local version of the Broadway favorite. Your ticket includes unlimited wine and beer before the show, hors d’oeuvres, the performance, and a $15 donation to OPALGA. There will also be a cash bar available at intermission. Mark your calendars now to join us, and call the box office right away (1-866-764-1010) because seating is obviously limited.
15—As in April 15, everyone’s least favorite day of the year. Yet, as another tax filing deadline passed us by, the grim reality reminds us that even as acceptance continues to grow for same-sex couples, the tax disparities faced by our community are unjust, unfair, and utterly discriminatory. The worst part is that the so-called dual taxation is only one key area out of many where members of our community are not given equal footing with straight couples—hospital visitations, health insurance, Social Security benefits, retirement savings, pensions, and estate taxes are just a few other glaring examples where LGBT individuals and couples are denied certain rights and privileges based on sexual orientation. Let’s have great times along the way but not lose sight of the fact that we cannot truly celebrate until these major hurdles are cleared in our struggle for equality.
20—As in the birthday OPALGA will celebrate next year. Planning has already started for a Gala birthday party to end all parties. We will return to The Hyatt Lodge in Oak Brook, so set aside Saturday, May 2, 2009 NOW!!
24—As in April 24, Barbra’s birthday. Enough said—Happy Birthday, Babs!
40—As in $40, the cost of a ticket to see “The Full Monty” (see number 14 above). A true bargain for a great night.
200—As in the number of seats available for “The Full Monty” (see number 14 and number 40 above). Are you getting the theme here? Call now to reserve your seats.
340—As in the attendance at this year’s Gala. You asked for an outstanding venue, we gave it to you, and you showed up in huge numbers. Give yourselves a big hand!
400—As in our membership goal for year-end. To achieve this, we will need your help. We ask each of you to personally adopt “EACH ONE…REACH ONE.” Make this your personal mission for 2008. Help us grow OPALGA into a larger and stronger association so that we can continue to put on superior programs and events all year long.
So, our look at numbers has returned to where it began. Yes, numbers are powerful. But, also remember the strength in numbers. Enjoy the rapidly improving weather, and we will see you soon at another event.
NOTE: Any winning lottery tickets that result from playing a combination of any of the numbers featured in the above column will be expected to produce a generous contribution to OPALGA!
Around The OPALGA Center
Marie Kuda at The Center
Thanks to Marie Kuda, renowned LGBT historian, for sharing her astounding breadth of knowledge with the women of OPALGA on Wednesday, March 19, in honor of Women’s History Month. The women present were treated to a stream of history that has never been taught to us in any classroom. Marie’s presence is a reminder that we have always been here—it’s just that many of us don’t know it. For those of you who are interested, Marie has donated a copy of The Completely Queer Gay and Lesbian Encyclopedia to The Center, and she has compiled a list for us of “100 Years of Lesbian Writers in Chicago.” She has also generously offered to do a follow-up slide show that will be open to the entire membership. Watch for the date in an upcoming issue of Empower.
HIV Testing Now Available
OPALGA is now able to provide anonymous and confidential HIV testing on site or in the community to anyone who identifies as a gay or transgender male. Testing is free, and appointments can be made by calling our confidential line at 708-386-3463 or by sending e-mail to prism@opalga.org.
Membership Recognition Reception Planned for May 29
Just a reminder that the annual OPALGA Membership Recognition Reception is being planned for May 29. At this informal reception, members will be able to enjoy hors d’oeuvres and beverages while celebrating the 19th anniversary of our organization. The highlight of the reception will be the presentation of the Carol Zientek Award for Distinguished Service and the Brian Findlay Award for Outstanding and Long-Term Commitment. Mark your calendars for Thursday, May 29, from 7:00 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. at Holley Court Terrace, 1111 Ontario St., Oak Park, IL 60302.
Gay Day at the Farmers’ Market and Village Players Theatre
Don’t forget to set aside, Saturday, June 14, for “Gay Day” in Oak Park.
OPALGA volunteers will begin their (very early) morning by making, serving, and selling donuts with Pilgrim Congregational Church at the Oak Park Farmers’ Market, 460 Lake St., Oak Park. Half of all proceeds will be given back to OPALGA, so this is a great way to raise money for the organization and to have a lot of fun while doing so. To volunteer, please call Susan at 708-386-3463 or send e-mail to prism@opalga.org.
The fun continues Saturday evening with a benefit performance of “The Full Monty” at the Village Players Theatre, 1010 W. Madison St., Oak Park. For only $40 per person, you will be treated to a pre-performance buffet with beer, wine, and soft drinks at 6:30 p.m. followed by the performance at 7:30 p.m. To purchase tickets, call the Village Players Theatre box office at 1-866-764-1010 and tell them you are purchasing tickets for the OPALGA benefit.
The Center Pledges to Help Reduce Bottled Water Waste
The Center is in need of a large Brita® water filtration system that we can keep in the refrigerator. Staff and volunteers go through many bottles of water, and we would like to be able to continue to support our voracious water drinkers while considering the environment. If anyone would like to make such a donation, it would be greatly appreciated! Please call Susan at 708-386-3463 to make arrangements.
Around The OPALGA Center
OPALGA Receives Additional Grants
We are pleased to announce that the Oak Park Area Arts Council (OPAAC) has again awarded OPALGA with a grant to support our coffeehouse soirees at the Buzz Café and our youth poetry and art group, OUTspoken.
This year, in addition to the OPAAC grant, the Community Bank of Oak Park and River Forest has awarded OPALGA $1,000 “in recognition of your community outreach efforts. …[T]he LGBT community continues to deal with isolation and discrimination, and OPALGA has from its establishment been able to provide programs which address these issues both for your members, and for the community at large which may not be well educated on these problems.”
We would like to thank both of these community institutions for the recognition of the hard work and dedication on the part of our staff, volunteers, and community members!
Two Fish Offers Stained-Glass Class to OPALGA Youth
Two Fish Art Glass (7401 W. Madison St., Forest Park IL) owners and partners Cecilia Hardacker and Tonya Hart have offered to sponsor 12 young adults from OPALGA’s drop-in programs for a five-week stained-glass class including instruction and all materials. This is the second class that Two Fish has offered to our young people, and it is a great opportunity for art instruction as well as camaraderie and the ability to observe successful gay business owners in action. We want to thank Cecilia and Tonya for their generosity and to remind people to visit the Two Fish Scratch and Dent sale on Saturday, June 7—get there early, items go fast!
ALAS Awarded Grant for Retreat
Amigos Latinos Apoyando Siempre (ALAS) has received a grant to fully support their Second Annual Latino Men’s Retreat. You may recall our solicitation of funds for last year’s retreat—the first—which received overwhelming support from our membership. This year, we applied for a grant from the Illinois Department of Public Health Center for Minority Health Services, who will serve as a cosponsor for this event. This year’s event will be held in Illinois, and we hope to expand on our success in 2007.
Spectrum Begins Partnership with Merit Hospice
In April, Spectrum begins a volunteer partnership with Merit Hospice in Lombard. Spectrum is going to create blank cards for the organization to have on hand to send to families who have lost a loved one. This will be a great opportunity to assist a community organization and to have our young people learn more about community service. We would like to thank OPALGA member Bob Stoner, who is the bereavement coordinator at Merit Hospice, for thinking of us.
National Day of Silence to Be Observed
Did you know that Friday, April 25, is the National Day of Silence? This event is held in schools nationwide to bring awareness to anti-LGBT bullying, harassment, and discrimination in schools. Students and teachers observe the entire school day in silence to echo the silence that LGBT students and their allies face every day. This year’s event is in memory of Lawrence King, a California middle-school student who was killed by a classmate because of his sexual orientation and gender expression. For more information on the National Day of Silence, visit www.dayofsilence.org.’
OPALGA Receives Chicago Community Trust Grant
OPALGA has just received notification from The Chicago Community Trust that the organization has approved a Management/Organizational Development Grant of $7,000 to OPALGA for the support of consultation for the development of a strategic plan and implementation of an Executive Director search based on said plan.
For 93 years, The Chicago Community Trust has connected the generosity of donors with the needs of the community by making grants to organizations working to improve metropolitan Chicago. With assets of $1.8 billion, the Trust made a record-breaking $114 million in grants in 2007. From strengthening community schools to assisting local art programs, from building health centers to helping lives affected by violence, the Trust works to enhance our region.
“The Chicago Community Trust is one of the most respected grant-making organizations in our community, and OPALGA is truly grateful for the Trust’s support of our strategic planning process,” said Mike Cochran, OPALGA Co-Chair. “The support of the Trust to an organization’s fundraising program truly cannot be measured in dollars and cents alone, as its support makes a statement of sorts to other donors who are considering giving funds to an organization.”
As Cochran also made clear, it is often smaller organizations such as OPALGA that receive the greatest benefit from a grant like this one. “The strategic planning process was and is so vital to OPALGA, and yet our budget is already virtually all allocated. Now, with the support of the Trust, our consultant Dr. Carol Goldbaum’s services have been fully paid for, and we have additional funds available to work with her as we go forward in search of an Executive Director. All of this helps OPALGA immeasurably as we attempt to transition the organization to the next level.”
“The first step in a journey is always the most difficult one. Thanks to the generosity of The Chicago Community Trust, the entire Board of Directors is energized and looking forward to building on this initial success,” Cochran added.
Message from the Co-Chairs
From February 6–10, the National Conference on LGBT Equality held its annual conference, “Creating Change,” at the Renaissance Center in Detroit. Susan Abbott, Director of Youth Programming, and Mike Cochran, OPALGA Co-Chair, attended the conference on behalf of OPALGA. Until OPALGA is able to hire an Executive Director, having a presence at conferences such as this one is vitally important to our organization. It not only allows OPALGA to network with other LGBT organization leaders and their members but it also enables us to keep current on what is happening in political and legal developments around the country and to keep us aware of issues of significance to the entire LGBT community.
The overriding theme of the conference was both direct and challenging—“Demanding Change without Embodying Change Will Never Create Change.” Highlights of the conference are too numerous to mention, but several can be singled out. Kate Clinton, the LGBT movement’s renowned comedic political commentator, served as the MC of all of the plenary sessions, and her topical humor was on point and well-received. Attendance at each of these sessions was always standing room only. The conference sessions covered topics such as fundraising, families, aging, legislative development, diversity, media, youth, sexuality, and volunteerism. Session facilitators uniformly used detailed handouts to ensure an excellence in presentation, and the overall quality of the program was always in evidence.
One plenary session, however, was extraordinarily memorable. Matt Foreman, the Executive Director of the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, had recently announced his decision to leave his position of over five years in order to accept a position in the fundraising world where he feels he has a unique ability to directly impact LGBT individuals and organizations in a major way. His final speech was emotional, passionate, hard-hitting, and eloquent, and it demonstrated at once his incredible commitment to the LGBT community.
Among the numerous highlights of his speech, attendees learned the following:
• 52% of the U.S. population now lives in a jurisdiction that outlaws discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation;
• 40% of the U.S. population now lives where people are prohibited from discrimination based on gender identity/expression; and,
• 20% of all Americans now live in states that give broad protection to same-sex couples.
As recently as 1970, all three of these numbers were zero!
Yet lest the LGBT community get self-satisfied, Matt offered up the following:
• Current estimates are that 40% of the homeless youth in the U.S. are LGBT individuals;
• Hate crimes not only continue but in fact now seem to be on the rise in many locales and are often particularly aimed at “feminine” males and “butch” females;
• Around the U.S., in communities where anti-discrimination legislation had previously passed, it has been taking an average of 15 years+ to go back and add gender identity to said legislation; and,
• At the August 9 forum for democratic presidential candidates, which was organized by the Human Rights Campaign and televised on the Logo channel, only Hillary Clinton had agreed to take a stand on the stump on LGBT issues (by August 9, both Edwards and Obama had also done so).
Matt’s main point, which he drove home both forcefully and eloquently, was that the LGBT movement is in fact at a critical point in its development. Now, more than ever, we must each be vigilant of the issues on the table and do our part to secure those basic rights to which we are rightfully entitled. His speech was inspirational and reminded each of us that no matter how much we have accomplished, there is still so much more to do.
Again, this concept of “change” could not be more timely for OPALGA. As you have learned from past issues of Empower, we have spent several months studying the organization and all that we do, and we have now created a three-year strategic plan that will guide us in improving each aspect of the organization so that we are giving you, our members, a terrific value for your dues. As always, we welcome your input. Should any of you have any thoughts or ideas that you would like to share, drop an e-mail to cochram1@nationwide.com. We would like to hear from you.
Programming Committee Takes New Direction
OPALGA’s Programming Committee recently held a meeting to reconfigure itself after a break of several months. One major change is that the committee will now be known as the Social Committee because it will primarily concern itself with social-type events. This was a direct result of the recent strategic planning process wherein the Board identified the need to differentiate social events from substantive programming for specific groups such as families, singles, etc. Programs targeted for these and other specific groups will be put on by a new Programming Committee, while the Social Committee will now consider a wide range of activities including events such as the drag show, gay bingo, theatre outings, and the like.
“The timing of the new structure is perfect because it now gives us a chance to think totally outside the box,” said David Rappoport, Board member and interim Chair of the Social Committee. “We can continue with events that have been successful in the past while at the same time come up with totally new ideas that satisfy the needs of our members for more diverse social events.”
The Social Committee meets monthly on the second Tuesday at 7:00 p.m. at The OPALGA Center and is looking for new members who want to help plan and put on events for the membership. “Your involvement can be limited to occasionally lending a hand, or you can take on and manage your own event if you have the time and interest,” added Rappoport.
“I am truly grateful for David’s willingness to step up and help us at this time,” said Mike Cochran, OPALGA Co-Chair. “Already this year we had over 85 people at the post-holiday brunch and 5 days later over 60 people attended the Steppenwolf benefit evening. These numbers show that our members enthusiastically respond to the right kinds of events.”
Anyone who wants further information about the Social Committee and its activities should contact David Rappoport at davidsteven@comcast.net.
Volunteer Spotlight
Given the number of volunteers that OPALGA counts on annually to do the amazing work that we do, we decided that everyone should get to know each other a little better. This month, we are highlighting volunteer member and 2008 Gala Co-Chair Rick Whitehead.
Empower: How long have you been a member of OPALGA?
Rick: I have been a member of OPALGA for about four years.
Empower: How long have you volunteered with OPALGA?
Rick: The first year, I attended a few potlucks and the Gala with my partner, Mike Cochran. I began volunteering my second year as a member.
Empower: In what capacity do you volunteer with OPALGA?
Rick: I’ve volunteered each year at A Day (A Gay) in Our Village. I did the 3:30 a.m. shift one year for the Donut Days fundraiser at the Oak Park Farmers’ Market. I’ve participated in the last three Independence Day (4th of July) parades in Oak Park. I co-hosted an OPALGA house walk with Mike in 2005. I was a co-chair for Table Captains for the 2006 Gala. I’m Co-Chair for the upcoming “Twelfth Night” Gala on April 5 with Lee Latham.
Empower: What first inspired you to become active and involved with OPALGA; that is, how did you first become a volunteer?
Rick: Mike and I were both volunteers on Oak Park Village commissions. Joanne Trapani, then the Village President, who was a Table Captain, first invited us to a Gala. Mike first became active in OPALGA, and then I followed suit shortly thereafter.
Empower: How would you encourage others to become active volunteers with OPALGA?
Rick: To become more active, I would suggest that members read Empower to see what the upcoming events are and where they need assistance. Then, call The OPALGA Center to volunteer. It’s that easy. With the variety of events and programs that OPALGA offers, it is usually easy to match up your interests with the group’s needs.
Empower: There are so many organizations with volunteer opportunities in the Oak Park area; what made you choose OPALGA as the organization with which to volunteer?
Rick: As I mentioned, I had been on one of the Village’s commissions—the Farmers’ Market commission. In fact, for six years, I chaired the commission, which kept me pretty busy, especially all summer. As a member of the LGBT community, however, I wanted to actively support and give back to the community, so I got more active in OPALGA as my workload eased with the Farmers’ Market.
Empower: Are you involved with other LGBT organizations?
Rick: No, OPALGA is the only LGBT organization with which I am actively involved.
Empower: What do you find most satisfying, rewarding, or inspirational about being an OPALGA volunteer?
Rick: For myself, I enjoy meeting other new LGBT people in our community. The monthly potlucks, for example, are just amazing places to meet new people and to see friends on an ongoing basis. The most rewarding aspect of volunteering is being able to support the great programs that OPALGA offers for the LGBT community. Growing up, to have the youth programs available that OPALGA now offers would have been so beneficial.
Empower: What is your professional background?
Rick: I am a transplant from the Lancaster, PA, area, but my career brought me to Chicago about 29 years ago. I’ve worked in various roles at the corporate offices of a corrugated container company—Packaging Corporation of America—in Lake Forest. PCA has four paper mills and 68 corrugated plants in the U.S. Most of my career has been on the operational side of the business. My last three years, I’ve been in our Sales and Marketing group, managing Sales Compensation, a fleet of 600+ vehicles and providing training to our 68 plants.
Empower: Is there any other personal information you would like to share with our readers? (Where you live, what your hobbies are, etc.)
Rick: For the past eight years, I have lived on South Harvey Avenue in Oak Park with my beloved partner Mike and our yellow Labrador Jordan. Our home is on a fairly large lot, which allows me to spend much of my time with one of my true loves—gardening. I also have other interests, such as playing tennis and scuba diving. In fact, recently in Hawaii I fulfilled a long-time desire to do an evening dive with manta rays, which was amazing. I recently started a part-time job at a dive shop in Oak Park called H2 Go Scuba, located on Chicago Avenue. I’m working with H2 Go Scuba toward obtaining Master Diver certification. And, living with Mike, I have become quite familiar with the music of Madonna and Barbra.
Thank you, Rick, and thank you to all of our volunteers! You may be next in the spotlight!
Message From the Co-Chairs
With the unprecedented events of the 2008 presidential election buildup as a backdrop, one consensus has emerged—change is the word of the day no matter which side of the fence you are on. Candidates have thrown this word around at every possible opportunity, letting voters know that the status quo will not be acceptable in the future.
In many ways, OPALGA mirrors the nation. Working with our strategic-planning consultant, Dr. Carol Goldbaum, during the last four months of 2007, the Board of Directors took a hard, critical look at virtually every aspect of the organization. It may sound trite, but “thinking outside the box” became a necessity rather than a wish. OPALGA is at a key transitional phase in its organizational development, and we must make some major changes as we prepare to undergo significant growth. In short, change is going to be a big part of our lexicon in the coming months and years.
As the Board of Directors awaits the final report from Dr. Goldbaum, we know certain facts. The in-depth examination of OPALGA revealed that we need to make changes in four important areas: membership, programming, management, and finance. Why are these areas so critical? In order to give members of OPALGA the most value for their membership dollars, we need to operate both efficiently and effectively so that you can see first-hand the benefits of OPALGA membership. Membership benefits must be both strengthened and communicated to our members. Programs that meet the many and diverse needs of our members need to be planned and offered. The Board must create a management structure that allows the organization to grow both now and in the future. Finally, a financial structure that allows us to practice fiscal responsibility at all times must be put into place. Each of these areas may sound quite basic, but the Board must now thoroughly examine each area and create a series of action plans with specific responsibilities. OPALGA will become a stronger organization, and the results will become visible to all of you.
How can you help? One fundamental area in which your input has an immediate impact is membership. Think of many of your friends who are not members of OPALGA and plan to introduce them to OPALGA in some way. Bring them to a potluck, and let them see who the members are. Invite them to the “Twelfth Night” Gala, which supports the ongoing cultural and social events for OPALGA members, services for youth and young adults, and our organization’s work with other community groups to promote diversity. We are in the midst of a strong LGBT population in Oak Park, Berwyn, Forest Park, and other surrounding communities, and yet our membership could, and should, be higher. We plan to grow our membership by year-end and to increase it significantly by 12/31/2010. There is strength in numbers, and OPALGA is a strong organization that will get even stronger.
Such growth is a major challenge but one that we gladly accept. OPALGA’s major strength is its membership, and with almost 20 years of our organization’s history behind us, we are in a strong position to continue building on our foundation. So, the next time you hear a candidate call for change, think of OPALGA and how we, too, must change.
One thing to remember about change—when you take a closer look, you might really like what you see!
Celebrate Valentine’s Day: Register!
In 1997, OPALGA organized a community-wide initiative to pressure the Oak Park Village Board to consider and approve an ordinance to establish a domestic partnership registry. In September of 1997, the Village Board approved the ordinance. The establishment of the domestic partnership registry broke new ground: it became the first domestic partnership registry established by an Illinois municipality.
Upon passage of the registry, it was immediately challenged via a petition drive by anti-LGBT forces calling for a non-binding referendum on the ordinance. OPALGA and the entire Oak Park community organized a huge campaign to counter the referendum: “Vote YES Oak Park.” What were the results of the referendum? I am sure that those of you who have visited The OPALGA Center have noticed the framed Wednesday Journal of Oak Park and River Forest front page with the banner headline on March 18, 1998: “Big Gay Day!” In a watershed moment for OPALGA and the Village of Oak Park, the ordinance was upheld. Another first: Oak Park became the first municipality in the nation to uphold a domestic partnership referendum by popular vote.
Declarations of domestic partnership may be registered with the Office of the Village Clerk. Domestic partners are defined by the ordinance as two unrelated and unmarried persons of the same sex who are age 18 or older, have lived together in Oak Park for at least six months, and are jointly responsible for each other’s necessities of life. Identification (passport or driver’s license) and proof of residence (lease, mortgage document, or utility bill) are required. The registration fee is $50.00.
In addition, each partner is issued a certified copy of his or her domestic partnership declaration. Registration is available by appointment only at the Village Clerk’s office: 708-358-5700.
Show your love and commitment by registering!
Tribute to Heath Ledger
Respected Actor Changed Hearts and Minds with “Brokeback Mountain” Role
The unexpected death of Heath Ledger on January 22, 2008, has shocked and saddened many in the LGBT community and beyond. Ledger chose his roles for their artistic integrity rather than for their commercial appeal. Many actors were too frightened to play the role of a cowboy who falls deeply in love with another cowboy; Heath Ledger was not.
In 2006, OPALGA Public Policy Chair Alan Amato was asked by the Wednesday Journal of Oak Park and River Forest to write a “One View” column in response to this groundbreaking film, “Brokeback Mountain,” directed by Ang Lee. The editors of Empower felt that a reprint of Alan’s article would be a fitting tribute to the memory of this brave and talented actor. Alan’s column was published on January 17, 2006, and is reprinted, with permission, in its entirety below.
“Brokeback Mountain” Is a Love Story, Not a “Gay Cowboy Film”
A week ago Friday, I joined friends for the opening of “Brokeback Mountain” at the Lake Theatre. For those of you who have not recently opened a paper or turned on the television, this film has generated praise from the majority of movie critics and its share of controversy. The movie has already been pulled from screens in three states, and I am confident, considering the amount of wingnuts, it will probably be pulled from several more screens before the end of its run.
The film, based on the 1997 short story by Annie Proulx, tells the story of two young Wyoming sheepherders, Ennis del Mar (Heath Ledger) and Jack Twist (Jake Gyllenhaal). The film begins in 1963 when the two cowboys meet and, well, fall deeply in love. Considering the time and place, the two men are confused, frightened, and, well, deeply in love. It brought to my mind Oscar Wilde and Victorian England: “the love that dare not speak its name.”
The story of this love affair stretches over a 20-year period. After a four-year absence, Jack (now married) appears at Ennis’ (also now married) door. At first sight, the two hug and kiss passionately. Every year they return to Brokeback Mountain to continue their relationship. All Jack wants in his future is for the two of them to live on a small ranch in Wyoming, to spend their lives together. Of course, considering the attitudes of the time, we all know this is just a wonderful dream.
Enough of the story—I want to encourage you to see the film, so I certainly do not want to give away too much of the story line. However, come Oscar time, I’m sure the film will receive nominations for Best Picture, Best Actor (Heath Ledger), and Best Director (Ang Lee). The scenery is spectacular, the acting, tremendous, and some of the background music, haunting. Of course, considering my activity in Oak Park with OPALGA, I freely admit I am not the most objective person to comment on this film.
Upon entering the nearly packed house, I noticed the majority of the audience was straight young couples. What would the reaction be when the two cowboys kiss? What would my reaction be to the audience reaction? The cowboys kissed—absolute silence in the theater. As the film progressed, I could hear muffled sobs.
I should point out that, yes, there is nudity and, yes, there are “sex scenes,” although they’re left much more to one’s imagination than many scenes I’ve witnessed in some mainstream straight cowboy movies.
“Brokeback Mountain” is not a “gay cowboy movie.” It is a love story—regardless of sexual orientation.
Have, in 40 years, attitudes changed? Almost exactly one year to the date of the publication of the short story in 1997, college student Matthew Shepard was fatally gay-bashed. Ironically, he was severely beaten, tied to a fence, and died—in rural Wyoming.
All Jack Twist wanted in 1963 was for himself and Ennis to own a small ranch and live as partners. Switch to the present: several states have recently passed state constitutional amendments to ban same-sex marriage.
All Jack Twist wanted was to share their love and their lives together without harassment, without publicity, without harm. Switch to the present: right-wing religious zealots and their legislative allies fight against comprehensive hate-crime laws. Not only do they fight against same-sex marriage but they fight against any civil protections for same-sex couples.
Have we made progress? Of course we have—especially in the protection of our little “bubbles” across the United States, such as our own wonderful community of Oak Park.
Upon leaving the Lake, I intentionally eavesdropped on people’s conversations. I did not hear a negative comment. I left the theater a bit watery-eyed but smiling—smiling that a movie of two men deeply in love is showing on the big screen in movie theaters across our country. A movie of two men deeply in love may possibly receive the Oscar for Best Picture. Please go see the movie—you will not be disappointed.
I know there are many like “Ennis” and “Jack” out there in rural and urban America. May they see this story and decide to “come out” and not be afraid or confused about their deep and abiding love.
The movie is about a love that could have been. I would have wanted it to be about a love that should have been.
